For approximately 1/2 of my community who either don’t follow sports or don’t even live in the US, pardon my frequent use of USA sports analogies; but at the risk of saying ‘that’s just the way I think as a guy’ I’m going to lay another one on you.
American football, 11 versus 11 dressed up like gladiators essentially fighting each other up and down a 100 yard field while one teams tries to score and the other tries to stop them. Usually played for approximately one hour in real game time, but actually takes about 3 hours actual time from start to finish.
A common strategy toward the end of the game if one team is winning by a seemingly comfortable margin, is for the team that’s up to engage in what is called a ‘prevent defense.’ It is supposed to employ a bend but don’t break attitude. It’s quite common however, the defensive team will get too far out of their game plan and bend too much. Sometimes this strategy backfires because the team quit being aggressive and doing what they were doing best.
Then the race is on hoping the clock runs out fast enough.
Essentially, they go from trying to win the game to trying not to lose.
Why would you deviate from what had been working for you up to that point? I’ve seen that strategy backfire enough you would think coaches would know better.
Are you playing to win?
Of course, we all are right? Nobody is going to accuse us of doing just enough not to get fired.
What if you are in a job that no matter how well you performed or how much initiative you displayed, you are still going to be paid the same regardless; and it will be the same pay as the sub-par performer sitting next to you. And oh by the way, the economy still sucks a root, so we are not giving out raises for the third year in a row…..but can I ask you to stay late and finish this project for me while I go home to my family?
How motivating is that?
I’ll just quit and start my own business; I hear it’s pretty easy to do with social online.
Anybody can be an entrepreneur
That’s right, anybody can. However, some seem to have more of a vision and drive for it than others.
But it’s not for everyone as some are better suited in a structured, more predictable environment. That is not a bad thing though, it’s really more important to identify your strengths and what you like to do, and being the best you can be with what you have to work with.
Being able to find a the right fit is much more critical to success and happiness than a label. And sometimes you are a blend instead of all this or all that.
But you have to make it happen
If you are sitting back and waiting for someone else to validate you; make you happy or successful, then all you are doing is playing not to lose. It might work, but you will have to take what you get, regardless if you like it or not.
Stay out of the prevent defense and be pro-active with your destiny, even if it means getting out of your comfort zone. The more pro-active you are, the better chance you have at success; and you will ultimately be much happier with the results, I promise. Trust me, I’m a doctor.