This is my post from April 20, 2011. I was so green I didn’t even know how to link or post pictures yet.
The reason I am re-posting is because you would think if I was writing about it a year ago then I would follow my own advice, huh? The reality is, in addition to not having any focus right now, my motor mouth makes me a crappy listener and I’m not doing a good job of being in the moment either.
Do they have a pill for that?
Not exactly what I planned for my 100th post, but here it is.
From a previous post, verbatim
Over the past few weeks I have seen several posts talk about listening; either how to be a better listener or how to totally ‘suck’ at it. I apologize to my blogging friends, I would link you if I could………a basic site indeed.
Purposeful and effective listening is an art and has to be practiced if you want to master it. How many times have you been in a room full of people and while you are engaged in conversation your eyes are scanning the room, looking over the shoulder, etc. If this is happening to you how does it make you feel? Like maybe what you have to say isn’t interesting enough to this person?
Let’s take it a step further; if you are actively engaging on several blogs how many times are you just scanning over the general content so you can hurriedly leave a comment? With so many good ones to visit and so little time, probably very easy to do. Speed reading courses, anybody?
Do you think the blogger might get annoyed if your reply totally misses the point making it obvious you didn’t read the whole thing? Or, is the blogger going to be happy just becaused you stopped by. If you catch yourself doing this, what is the solution?
Should you cut down on the posts you visit? Are you ok just doing the same old thing and hoping you aren’t exposed? Or, should you neglect some of the other parts to stay totally engaged, reading with understanding?
I bring this up because it happened to me. I responded to a post, thought I was witty and had a pretty good reply. Guess what, I didn’t fully read the post and missed the point. The author subtly thanked me for replying but her response made it obvious I was out there in la la land. Pretty embarrassing, but another lesson learned for me in the blogosphere.
The point is, are you just rushing through life; through your experiences? Do you have so much on your plate you aren’t taking the time to listen to what someone is really trying to say? If you are taking the time to engage on blogs are you reading for understanding? Is there just too much noise out there?
Are you moving at warp speed because you are in a hurry to build your network? Do you think faster is better? I mean, the clock is always ticking, right?
Maybe we just need to slow it down a little bit to enjoy this incredible journey called life.
Lately, I feel like I’m just going through the motions with lack of focus and I just can’t seem to get my arms around ‘this.’ Because of ‘this,’ I feel I have been present in body, but not in mind.
Maybe by re-reading some of my older posts I will take my own advice I suppose. Hopefully I will be in a place where I can post this again next year.
This is nothing new, just a bump in the road.