AKA – my top 5 social media mistakes.
As you jump into social media, somewhat tentative at first hoping not to be totally exposed for your limitations; I’m sure there were several ‘do-overs’ you wish you had. But as we all know on the internet, once it’s out there it is ‘really’ out there.
I will share mine and hopefully it will save embarrassment for others.
Dorman………really? That’s the best you got? That’s really warm and friendly……..not.
In my defense, it was the only picture I had with my face that was formatted correctly for Twitter. I thought it would be better than an egg. Trust me, I got plenty of ribbing fromMarcusSheridan about this (and rightfully so).
Fortunately, I recently got a camera for my Skype calls and was able to upgrade.
- Rule # 1 – take the time to find a decent pic, this is your first impression.
Who to follow
I started with celebrities, sports personalities, athletes, etc; I thought this would be an interesting group. Wrong…….boring group to follow.
Twitter started making sense once I took the time to engage with ‘real’ people on their blogs.
- Rule # 2 – follow people who know ‘social’ media means two-way communication. Take the time to develop your relationships.
I wasn’t shy about jumping in and leaving comments because I saw everyone else doing it. I know some people are hesitant to do this, but it is really the only way to learn.
However, early on I did get a little jealous when some banter did not include me and felt I was being ignored; and it did make me question whether I belonged or not. In fact, I posted My Fork in the Road
. Fortunately enough Gini Dietrich
sent out an SOS and saved me from myself.
- Rule # 3 – conversations do go on without you; you are not getting ignored and don’t take it personally. Yes, they do see you.
It doesn’t matter who follows you
It always confused me how I could follow someone and engage with them on their blogs and consider them friends; but they never followed back. Once again, I felt it was blog worthy and wrote Well, that was Awkward
. Not that I am a grizzled veteran, but this is really so insignificant especially if they are engaging with you anyway.
- Rule # 4 – if it’s that important to you, tweet and tell them you tried to DM but realized they weren’t following. Let them decide from there. Trust me, no big deal.
Why don’t these people comment on my blog
Well, let’s see; maybe my content is not compelling enough. Or, maybe I’m not high enough on the pecking order or in their niche. Finally, you can only see so many people.
Yes, I go to plenty of sites and certainly see who is there and makes me wonder at times. But then again, I can’t stop by everybody’s site either and so I at least try to reciprocate to the ones who do visit.
- Rule # 5 – don’t expect reciprocation just because you frequent somebody’s site. If you feel you are doing all the heavy lifting with nothing in return, then just move on.
I e-mailed Ashley Ambirge
at The Middle Finger Project a month ago to tell her I tried to reach out but felt it wasn’t reciprocated; I unfollowed. She had no idea; so don’t be too hasty to pull the plug. And while I’m mentioning Ashley, if you want to read something powerful, read her Rock Bottom
post. It’s strong so hold on.
Agree/disagree? How about you, what missteps have you made? What was important to you early that now doesn’t even make your radar?
I will finish by saying I didn’t get beat up too bad and still enjoying the journey; hope you are as well.